Blogpost 1: Prologue : Broken family

A family, once whole, is now divided After one heartless sister quickly decided That the other two-thirds weren't doing their share Their father, all alone, is left in painful despair Rewind, move back, to two years ago A happy scene, a party, everyone's face is aglow Before the warm fire, talks of work and of play Swirl around and around on that joyous Christmas day Flash forward, to today, everything has changed The father, now dying; that sister, deranged She's cut off her sisters from her unhappy world Ignoring the harsh injustices that have been unfurled Her daughters denied the sight of their aunts, They speak up, only to receive their mother's taunts I can see what is happening, this huge tragedy We are left with nothing, nothing but a broken family.

            While searching for articles which are related to my topic, I came across this poem. It was made by a girl named Krystel.  And by reading this heartbreaking poem, I immediately realized what we have in common. It is – we are both product of broken family.

            I was so young that time that I can’t remember much from those dismal years of my life. All I can remember are the endless argument of my parents. Financial problems are an example of it. They keep on discussing it again and again. Loud voices are filling the room.  My father is shouting at my mother and my mother is shouting at him too. We did nothing but cry and cry. What can I do? I was young and innocent.  It was the worst nightmare for me and my brother, I thought.  But I was wrong because when I turned 5, my mother officially left my father therefore being a product of broken family.

Family is defined in many ways. First, in the dictionary, it was define as fundamental social group in society typically consisting of one or two parents and their children. Second meaning is two people or more that is sharing a common passion or goal and is united by love. Either of the two, it is what we called a family.

Family is usually composed of a mother, a father and a child/children. If any of the parent is not visible during the growth of child, it is consider as broken family. Broken family is defined as  a family in which the parents have separated or divorced. 

According to "Effects on Children of a Broken Family" by Marky Chavez: 

"Divorce is the hardest challenge that can happen to a couple especially if they have kids. It is painful for the husband and wife to finally end their marriage but they are two matured individuals who are strong enough to handle changes in their lives. The impact of this turn of events in a family’s life is more devastating on the children. Not only that it is painful for them on that moment to hear the news that their parents are getting a divorce. But the worst that can happen is the long term effect that can eventually ruin their future."

            In every broken family, the one who will most devastated were the children. Of course, who want to grow up having a broken home? Also, they were so affected in many ways. Like socially, emotionally at mentally. 

• Emotionally - They will be affected emotionally because of the despair they are feeling. Some of them will be tearful and depressed because of the shock. Of course who will be happy when your family is falling apart?

• Educational - When someone is depressed, everything they will do will be affected. This results to failing marks and grades. They will lose their interest and motivation in studying because of the sadness in their hearts.

• Social - They lose their interest in engaging relationship with other people. They'll have the "thought" of being left again. Most people who were of broken families are the one who have the trust issues. 

        In the same article Marky Chavez stated that: 

"A broken home can make a child insecure. Insecure in a sense that he no longer had a complete family he can call his own. For a child’s mind, a family is composed of a father, mother and children. And living without either his father or mother will create fear and insecurities in him. This feeling of insecurities will even trigger if he is around his friends who are living a normal, complete and happy life. This is especially true in school events where the parents’ presence are required. There are plenty of school activities that involves the parents and seeing scenes like these will even make him feel ashamed of his family situation?" 

         Because of incompleteness they are feeling they become too insecure of people that surrounds them creating  a inferiority complex.  They envy those people who have or experienced having a happy and complete family while they experienced the worst.

       As a product of a broken family, I can say that it isn't easy. It really is not. But with my father by my side, I made it through. So my advice is for those who has only one parent, love them as much as you love yourself. You've gone through hell but you should be thankful that they're with you through it all.